Wednesday, May 26, 2010

we have tunafish.

I was not cut out for this generation. I do not desire to be a part of the workforce nor the school world. Here I am almost a senior in college, and I would quit school altogether if I had grounds for doing so. And I wonder, do I really? I have recently become fed up with college. I have no ambition, no inspiration, no reason, or joy in proceeding forth in the process. From the time I was a little girl, I had no great ambitions or great ideals for my future. I have never seen myself any place except in "motherland." Why I am in college, do not even ask.

We live in a world where the words "housewife" and "homemaker" are considered archaic and something only grandmothers are familiar with. Homemakers are scrutinized and mocked these days. Profanity is even used on vintage images of housewives to advertise that homemaking is just something to make fun of and is just for wimps and brainless women. Visions of women donning freshly pressed aprons in their kitchens baking are replaced with women wearing power suits sitting in dull, cold offices taking orders from men. Women today have traded in their cutting boards for a motherboard. Where has our world gone wrong?

I would say our world has crossed the line, and should be sorry for it. People talk about homemaking today as though it should be something to be ashamed of and replaced. Our world talks about moving forward and always will, but for what? What does it mean to move away from wives world? What will happen to household etiquette? What will our future ladies teach our future daughters when all of the home economics skills have been cast aside? Our colleges have already replaced the home economics department with family consumer sciences, which is not exactly the same thing. Our country has done away with finishing schools and I have to wonder why.

There is hardly a single girl left in this world who desires to be a housewife. Our culture has crammed college ideals down girls throats with the impression that working in the world is all there is to offer. But I ask, "What ever happened to June Cleaver?" Sure, people make fun of her and Leave it to Beaver, but I don't care. That happens to be one of my favorite shows, and I rather like June's way of running a house. In fact I recently told a friend, "I just want to be June Cleaver." In the movie Mona Lisa Smile, Julia Stiles tells Julia Roberts "To you a housewife is someone who sold her soul for a center hall colonial. She has no depth, no intellect, no interests. You're the one who said I could do anything I wanted. This is what I want."

These were the days when the reality of cooking was actually an art, and not a recreational activity. I'm tired of our society's view of running a house. They consider a complete meal to be a frozen dinner thrown into the microwave and a school lunch to be Lunchables with GoGurt and Hi-C. The focus today is on quick, fast, and time saving. Quantity of food is now more important than the quality, and easy is now more important than taste. As long as you can slip it into a microwave, toaster, or plastic bag, then it is the way to go. After all, it saves the Dr. Mrs. Jones 15 minutes each day if she can 1) remove from the freezer, 2) tear the open here tab , and 3) slip into microwave. "Stouffers. Let's fix dinner." Notice any irony in that phrase?

I'm sorry, but I will be a June Cleaver while all the rest of the women are Desperate Housewives. Many girls have dream jobs, and mine just happens to be homemaking. The ironic factor that I have to mention is that while the world scrutinizes housewives, they're forgetting major considerations--it takes talent, practice, brains, and strength. Cooking is not something that happens to you overnight. Any mother, like my mother, could tell you that. Many of the people who slander homemaking have never even picked up a measuring cup before and they call it a job for sissies. Think again, rather? Our grandmothers didn't learn how to feed their families by sitting in a corner knitting. They mastered the art of cooking because they stood in the kitchen for hours. They weren't concerned about how fast something took so mommy had time to run to the gym on the way home from the office, or if it was an organic product from Whole Foods because that is the current trend. These ladies were frugal and took pride in their cooking.

While I do not want to work in the real world (I know that makes me sound like a lunatic in this culture), I do not harbor hard feelings against the women that do. If you're single, that's one thing. But if you're a mother, why are you working? Yes, I understand single mothers. But the women who have a complete family are the ones I sit there and think, "Your husband is able bodied, so why are you both working?" Is because you have to live in the latest suburbs and have that massive SUV just so you can say you're keeping up with the Jones? I sure hope not. I can hope that it merely means that you just like working and want to do both. I can understand a mother wanting to work, but before you step out into the working world, do not take for granted that you chose to have a family.

I just want to turn my head the other way when I see power suit clothed mothers strolling down the aisles of Publix, with a cellphone in one hand plugged to one ear, and the other hand struggling to steer a grocery cart with her day care children hanging on for dear life. I will never place my children in a daycare, and my mother never did either. That is unthinkable in my logic. I adore the idea of playing and reading with my children, and nurturing them at home. My decisions about homeschooling my children, like I was, are definitely considered. I believe that I it is more beneficial for children than most people realize. I do not think I will home school them through high school though. I want them to experience what real school is like before they go to college, as I did.

I want to live a life that consists of living in a house that I have put hours into making our home, mornings at the park with my children, and me realizing that this is the life I always wanted. My home won't be all perfect, but will have perfect imperfections, like a squeaky screen door and sections of creaky wood floors here and there, just because. I want my children to discover what childhood means, and that they will never have to go to a day care where germs are spread faster than cracker crumbs at snack time. I want to do the things my mother has always done. I want to make cups of tea for my daughters and friends when they come for visits. I want my guests to realize that my home isn't made up of perfections, but of a mother's touch. I want to my daughters to come begging me to play with their dolls, and to order a plate of plastic food in their restaurant. I hope to be a mother who cares enough to stop what she's doing to spend a little "kid" time with my children because they admire what I do for them. I will play action figures and matchbox cars. I will play whatever my children ask. I want to have sewing, knitting, quilting, and needlework circles who chat about their homes and sip coffee and tea. I want to be able to make meals that I place sincere thought into that display how much I love what I do.

I do not understand why I continue on with college. I dislike being forced to read things I completely have a problem with. I love children's literature more than adult and find the process of studying for hours on end to be a cruel punishment. I will never remember and care if I know how to say I'm tired in French, or what the square root of 567 times 80,790 is, or what does this simile in Hamlet imply, or why is Virginia Woolf considered to be a modernist. These are things that I will never use again, except for maybe the French if I ever travel to the French Riviera...cough, cough...right! I am going through all of this to attain a B.A. in English, and for what? I can only pray and have faith that God will bring these hopes of homemaking into reality and that I will never have to worry about working among the frenzy of people. College degrees are quite an accomplishment, but it is sad to think that I will do all this work to never really do anything with the degree.

Homemaking isn't an easy task. It takes a lot of strength and diligence, and I admire our mothers and grandmothers for it. These women should be praised and not ignored. Why is it that a madwomen in the workforce is rather praised than a housewife who actually takes pride in her family and home? Is it because women today are afraid of being called old-fashioned? I say, more power to me if they mark my views of life as archaic. What do I care? It's life I have always admired and have always seen myself a part of. I am taking my Singer under my belt and darn it, I'm bringing back homemaking all the way! I want to be a June, a mother who says, "we have tunafish."

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

oldies for goodies sake!

I am an old movie (black and white preferably) fanatic. I love discovering old films I have never watched before that most people have probably never heard of or seen. Every time I visit my cousin we end up watching a fabulous black and white. I just returned from a visit this past weekend, and we watched My Man Godfrey. It was one of the cutest movies I have seen in a while. I have about exhausted all of my old favorites that I own, and would love to keep adding to my beloved collection. This must go into my collection. The visit before that we watched Vivacious Lady--another great film. And this had my favorite actor too--Jimmy Stewart! Here are a few of my favorite films, along with those mentioned above, that may or may not be familiar, but I think are just fantastic!

My Man Godfrey
I love this movie! It's so funny!

Vivacious Lady
A wonderful movie starring James Stewart and Ginger Rogers.

Dear Ruth

This is one of the cutest movies I have ever seen, and it is so difficult to find on DVD or VHS. I first saw this movie about 10 years ago or so. It stars William Holden.
Love it!

The Bachelor and the Bobby-Soxer

I love this movie! It is so funny! Three of my favorite movie stars all in the same film. Shirley Temple is all grown up!

It Happened One Night

This is a more known movie, but I had to include it since it's one of my favorites and it is a very old movie. Very funny.

Shop Around the Corner

Love this has Jimmy Stewart! He's brilliant in all of his movies!

The Philadelphia Story

It has three of my favorites in it, and of course that includes Jimmy Stewart and Carey Grant! Many people do not like Katharine Hepburn, but I am actually a fan of her.

Mr. Smith Goes to Washington

Love, love, love this movie! Being a huge Stewart fan, this automatically fell into my list of favorites. And I just love Jean Arthur...she's so funny and cute! (You Can't Take it With You is another great one and includes both of them).

Arsenic and Old Lace

I watch this movie every Halloween night. It's such a great movie! I love Peter Lorre in this film.

14 Hours

Grace Kelly's first movie, and I love it! Her role is minor and short, but does it beautifully. I am certain many people would find this movie boring, but I love it not just because Grace is in it, but because I think it is very intriguing.

Sunset Boulevard

Probably a more famous movie among this list, but I know that there are plenty of people who have never seen this movie. Many people, I'm sure, would think this is a rather strange and depressing movie, but I love it and love William Holden's humor.


Another James Stewart and of course, I love it! I'm a huge Alfred Hitchcock fan, and think the plot is brilliant.

The Lady Vanishes
Love this movie's plot and the fact that it is an old Alfred Hitchcock.

voices speak.

There are just some voices that I love hearing, and especially those on the news and TV. Facebook even has fan pages for famous peoples' voices. Some of these voices I have never heard on a regular basis since they were before my time, but they still count. The following voices speak to me and make me smile:

Brian Williams
I think of him during the Olympics, Presidential elections, and political topics. I often remember 9.11.01 when I hear his voice.

Tom Brokaw

When I used to hear Tom's voice I always thought of 9/11 and every political topic occurring. He was a lot like Brian. Sad that Tom is no longer on the air.

Winston Churchill

Although Winston was way before my time, I love hearing his voice. It isn't often that I do, but occasionally I hear it in a movie or some special on TV. Gotta love the English.

Morgan Freeman

Morgan's voice is just soothing. I will always love hearing his voice-on Visa commercials, movies, and everything else. I am a fan on Facebook...I guess that makes it somewhat official. :)

Tom Hanks

I love hearing Tom's voice. There's just something about it.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

classy things i like

i love perfumes. when i find a good scent, it's hard to look the other way. i've been wanting to buy Tocca perfume in the "cleopatra" fragrance. it's such a feminine scent. all of the Tocca scents smell so good though.

with summer in the air, i have swimsuits and sundresses dancing through my head. here a few summer fashion inspirations that i just love. this little beach dress is just adorable. this is such a cute beach dress as well as picture. i love the hat too. this is such a cute suit. i love their suits. so adorable. i just love Audrey's dress. so sophisticated. Zooey is so adorable and these dresses are so cute. i absolutely love the dress in the middle. i love this suit that Grace is wearing. Grace is wearing the cutest little swimsuit. i really like this simple and casual little outfit Grace is wearing. so cute. this swimsuit Grace is wearing from High Society is so cute. simple but classy. Grace's beach garb from To Catch a Thief is too cute. i love the scarf and glasses. this is such a cute little summer outfit young Grace is wearing. i love her shorts. here a few random fashion pictures that i just adore. they're so pretty and sophisticated. i love Grace's hat and mink coat. so beautiful and feminine. i love this blouse and sweater combination Grace is wearing. i really like the ruffles. i absolutely love this pink dress. it's so beautiful and classy. this is such a proper and classy suit. i love it. love Grace's classic and proper look, carrying her Hermes bag as usual. love, love this cape. so classy. i just adore this outfit. it is so classic. this is one of the most beautiful dresses i have ever seen. it is so victorian yet, still modern day. the caramel sash really makes it stand out. i love this hat Grace is wearing, and the whole outfit. it is so her. i love this blue dress. it is like a modern day Alice in Wonderland.